Mulled Wine & Giggles

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I have the giggles. I am in the middle of the Tate Modern Bar, on my third mulled wine (that might explain it), and I am laughing so hard tears are streaming down my cheeks.
I am here with E, and she is in a state of infinite Lols too. I love this moment in time so much. Because even though we spent the last two hours talking about my recent heartache, general changes, life choices, and everything in between, we always have these moments that take us out of the everyday and remind us how it is to just be in danger of peeing your pants with laughter.
We spent a few seconds catching our breath, and then looked out of the window. It gets dark earlier now, but tonight I don’t mind it. It makes London shine brighter, the Christmas market in front of Tate more magical, and this evening truly heartwarming.

I hope you are all having a lovely December, and that you are finding time for your loved ones and yourself. Now, I can hear my 4rth glass calling me :)

Love,

G

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Enough, Too Much, and the Journey in Between

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Enough, Too Much, and the Journey in Between

I’m in the Starbucks at Vauxhall. I just ordered a small skinny decaf latte, which by many measures could be seen as a non-coffee coffee. Sia’s ‘Breathe Me‘ is playing, and it makes my heart want to explode in a million little tears. I feel as if I am holding myself together, keeping all the parts from falling apart, moving forward because I can not face what is back there, remembering that just because everything around me moves doesn’t mean that I am too.
There are times that I don’t feel enough while feeling too much. I feel I am not enough, good enough, handsome enough, with a good enough body or a good enough sense of self confidence. And then I feel too much, too many emotions trying to be processed, too many memories trying to be remembered, too many pains trying to stay forgotten, too much happiness and too much sadness colliding so violently that in the end they both feel the same, intense and scary. There is fear in happiness, there is the birth of something that could be lost, taken away, leaving a void that was not there before.
I am not trying to create a happy ending in this post. I am not trying to sugarcoat it. I feel there should not be a ‘but‘ in the end; but I know there is. Because I know that what I feel now is raw, and painful, and exhilarating, and primitive, and painful, but it is for the best, it teaches me how to be human, it shapes me, it breaks me, and it makes me. I feel like crying because I feel alive, and I feel like smiling because I feel alive. I feel, therefor I feel alive. And there is no journey more be difficult and more beautiful than this.

Everything will be ok in the end; if it is not ok, it is not the end.

Love,

G

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The Yoga Queen of Shoreditch

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The Yoga Queen of Shoreditch

Shoreditch is a melting pot of clashing colours, colourful characters, and characteristic eclectic spaces that make it a truly marmite area: it is either seen as a celebration of individuality where original moments happen every second or the London hipstergatory where original moments came to die a replicated, unoriginal death.
Whatever your stance, you cannot help but marvel at the creative force that shapes the landscape. The walls are canvases, and the pavements are exhibition spaces.
The Yoga Queen is one of the works that caught my attention; an inspired piece by Maupal Mauro Pallotta, it is a tongue in cheek play of words that lights up the whole area, and makes people do a double take when they pass it, leaving a cheeky smile on their face.
It left one on me, so I thought I would share it with you.

Love,

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I’m Learning

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I’m learning. I have been walking on this earth for nearly 30 years, my footsteps circling its circumference a few times, my smiles beaming sun rays, my tears forming vast oceans, my face a map of emotions, thoughts, feelings, fears and desires.
I’m learning. I never said I know everything, I sometimes claimed I know something, I’ve somehow learned when it is time to say nothing.
I’m learning. I am trying not to judge and not fear being judged, I make mistakes and try to make up for them, I am far from perfect, I am far from home, I am far in the distance and close in the picture.
I’m learning. I am growing up. I still feel like a child in a grown up world, in a world I feel I don’t fit in, a world that I am sometimes not strong, or hard, or thick skinned enough.
I am learning. And still, I feel I don’t know enough. I am learning though. I am trying. I will not stop. I will not stop learning.

Love,

G

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A walk in the clouds

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A walk in the clouds

It is not cold and it is not warm. It is a mild afternoon. I am wearing a short sleeved t-shirt, and a pair of black jeans with a belt I am now regretting, mostly because it is too tight and I can not really loosen it in public without looking like a perv.
The noise from the Starbucks I am sitting in is a mix of elevator jazz, an angry discussion in Indian, a passive aggressive discussion in English, and an Eastern European (Polish?) quiet chat between lovers where the looks say more than the words.
I was on a plane two weeks ago. It was mid day, and I was sitting by the window. As we started our ascend, streets became grey grooves, people became dots, and the image started slowly blurring, turning grey, then white, and then we were in the clouds. We stayed there for a bit, and as I started getting a bit anxious, the first rays of sunshine made my pupils contract. I could not divert my gaze; it was beautiful. A carpet of clouds, thick and heavy, spread as far as I could see and I felt like I was walking on it.
I thought of the past few months, and how I felt like I was stuck in a cloud too. Sometimes under, being rained on; sometimes in, vision blurry; sometimes on top, looking at the stars. This reminded me of my guided meditation from Headspace, where Andy says that it is like looking at the sky, and not seeing the sun, because the clouds are in the way. The clouds are the thoughts, and the more you fight them, the thicker they get; however by meditating the clouds slowly clear, and the sun shines through. The sun has always been there, behind the clouds – it was just hidden.
I spent a week in Greece, a mix of family time, me time, and decompression. Time spent wondering what I am doing, collecting pebbles at the beach, reading The Bone Clocks by David Mitchell and stuffing as much Greek food I could in my mouth before leaving.
The trip back was different. There were no clouds, only a clear night sky; even though there was no sun, the earth seemed to glow from the inside, and I felt its glow warm my skin like a hug.
I am now back in London, back to work, back to reality. My tan is fading in days that are not cold and not warm, in mild afternoons soundtracked by Starbucks, in coffee that tastes of cinnamon and memories that taste like home, in electrically charged clouds full of thunder and hope.

Love,

G

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Candy Chang’s Bucket List Wall

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Candy Chang’s Bucket List Wall

Do you believe in bucket lists? Not in the way that you would believe in Santa, or ghosts, or the now classic Book of Mormon tune; I mean, do you- would you do a bucket list?
I think that bucket lists are the optimistic version of ‘what I have not achieved before death‘. It is the glass that is half full, but the person holding it is realising that the room is getting hotter and hotter, and soon enough he is sitting in a sauna with the water dissipating into vapour.
I think I am daunted by the things I would like to achieve before I, you know, passed away. I am not really ok with the notion of death, even though a few years ago I proclaimed that I am totally comfortable with it. I remember during a philosophical discussion that could only take place within the confines of a student residence I said that I thought that death is absolutely normal, the end of the cycle, a part of life, and other Lion King wisdom. Then, my grandmother died, and the concept of her not existing anymore baffled me. I could not wrap my head around it, simply because it was void: I was required to accept the absence of something that was there one moment, and gone the next. I think I was (and still am) perplexed, not so much about the physical side, but mostly the ‘soul‘ side of it. Yes, the body is the vessel, but how, how on earth does this person’s essence dies? It is enormous, and beautiful, and ugly, and true, and fake, and powerful beyond words and emotions, so how can it just stop existing?
I had to come to terms with more losses in the past few years, and I am none the wiser. So as I was on the bus, listening to Being Boiled on repeat, my eye caught a big blackboard by the side of the street. I had walked by that spot so many times, and yet this was the first time I actually noticed it. I got off at the next stop, walked back, and looked closer.
The heading was ‘Before I Die’, and under it lines waiting to be filled. On the side there was a deposit of chalk. I started reading the entries, and there were wishes of wealth, travel and love, moments of humour and droplets of pain. I thought for a moment what I would write; my mind was blank. The only thing that came to mind was an answer that was as cliche as it was true: to live.
I stood and looked at it; there is something intensely powerful about it. The fact that you have to first erase someone else’s entry in order to write your own seemed to have an almost poetic quality, mirroring how sometimes in life, your wishes don’t come true because someone else’s did and how the cheers of your success might be a blanket over the sorrow of someone else’s failure.
I later googled the piece and I found out that it was by Candy Chang, and there are walls like this one around the world. A global bucket list, a chalk board mirror of the human nature, mortality, hope and the invisible threads that connect them. A chalk outline of a life that waits to be lived.

Love,

G

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Tea and Reflections: Folding the Day

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I ordered a hibiscus tea and found a place to sit. It is a small table by the window, with a spotlight spewing white light on it. I can see my reflection on the window surface, mingling with the world outside, my eyes shaded, the light catching my forehead and cheekbones, creating a strange collage of face and street. I take a sip, and it tastes like paint mixed with glue. I stretch, and try to push my shoulders back.
I seem to find myself in cafés a lot lately, and I mean his literally: I sit down, unwind slowly, and at the process, get myself back to me; find myself or at least the part of it I lost in the day, the part I did not hear, or neglect, or simply ignore even if that meant not pay attention to my own needs. I remember seeing a Twinings where this animated woman goes through land and see just to find a mirror image of herself; the two join into one, and through a few sips of Twinings, she is back to herself.
Now, I don’t know if it is the tea that has this effect, or the fact that I am sitting down and flat out refusing to think of anything else but this moment that has this effect for me. But when I find it, I get this tingling sensation, a very similar sensation to the one you get when you watch a person do something with great attention and focus; when they are folding laundry with a slow, choreographed way, taking great care of it. I feel this sensation spreading over my shoulders to my limbs, flowing down towards the ground like a discarded layer. In the laundry analogy, it is almost as if I am folding my day, taking great care of it; taking great care of myself.
The reflection is clearing out, and the street is not as prominent anymore. I raise my head towards the spotlight, and I can see the parts that were shadowed before. I look outside; I look ahead.

Love,

G

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